Have you already decided to divorce? What's next? How will you keep your family together while your marriage is coming apart?
Divorce Counseling is for couples who are thinking of divorcing or have already decided to divorce.
There are many reasons couples decide to divorce. Some of them include:
- Loss of trust
- Inability to forgive
- Falling out of love
It is best for some marriages to end, but what happens afterward is very important for everyone’s well-being. Divorce is an emotional process and the effects of divorce are said to be similar to a death in the family. There is a grieving process involved which can include feelings like anger, depression, shame, denial, and ultimately acceptance. I help couples talk through what the future will look like and how to approach communication and conflict in a civilized way.
I look at divorce as a 3 step process.
- Pre-Decision: This is when couples acknowledge they are unhappy, more conflict is present, moving out has been discussed, they are researching options, and one or both partners may have contacted a lawyer.
- Decision and legal process: This is when the couple is already working with a lawyer, financial and property arrangements are being discussed, and custody of children may be a factor.
- Post Dissolution: This is when the couple begins to adapt and transition into life after divorce. Decisions about how to co-parent need to be made, friendships may change, and adjusting to a new identity post-divorce are challenges in this stage.
I support couples through this process either individually or together. It can be long, stressful, hurtful, and draining. Talking with a professional can make things easier on everyone involved by relieving some of the tension and overwhelming feelings.
I typically recommend sessions for divorce issues be scheduled 1-2 times a week.